书评--SabrinaQi

当我读完《如何适当的表达情感》一书，我受益匪浅,因为书中有很多值得我们借鉴的技巧帮助我们恰到好处地表达自己的情感，尤其是不良情绪，从而更快地获得内心的平静。

Everyone has their own feelings, but not everyone shares their feelings appropriately. 每个人都有自己的感受，但并不是每个人都能恰当地分享自己的感受。

First, we have to be in control of those feelings. Sometimes it may be hard, but we can always have self-control. Self-control means having Control over your feelings and actions. Actions that hurt people make things worse, not better. Controlling our feelings does not mean ignoring them. It means following the social rules for appropriate communication. We can share our feelings, talk about what we want, and work things out with the other person. 首先，我们要控制好自己的情绪。有时候这可能很难，但我们总是可以做到自我控制的。自我控制意味着控制自己的情绪和行为。伤害别人的行为只会让事情变得更糟，而不是更好。控制自己的情绪并不意味着忽视它们。这意味着遵循适当沟通的社会规则。我们可以分享自己的感受，谈论我们想要的东西，并与对方一起解决问题。

Second, I-messages are the best way to tell Someone how you feel or what you think. You begin with the word "I" and then talk about yourself. Two examples are "I feel proud because I made that airplane by myself,” and “I won't go to that Playground because I don't feel safe there." 其次，I-messages是告诉别人你的感受或想法的最好方式。你以“I"这个词开头，然后谈论你自己。两个例子是"我为自己能独自制作那架飞机而感到自豪"，以及“我不会去那个游乐场，因为我觉得那里的健康。它会影响你的心脏和血液循环。承受过多压力的人会出现睡眠和进食问题。当这种情况发生时，是时候向医生寻求帮助了。如果你有这种感觉，一定要告诉别人。处理压力的最糟糕的方式是保持沉默；这只会让事情变得更糟。

Listening is also an important part of appropriate communication. You should always listen politely to the person you are speaking with. That person also has feelings to share. You can show that you understand by nodding your head and responding thoughtfully. Understanding isn't the same thing as agreeing. 倾听也是适当沟通的重要组成部分。你应该始终礼貌地倾听与你交谈的人。那个人也有感受要分享。你可以通过点头和深思熟虑的回复来表明你理解。理解并不等于同意。

Sometimes when you listen, you learn that you made a mistake. The appropriate way to handle that is to say that you are sorry. After you say you're sorry, try to make the situation better. If you broke something, fix it if you can. If you forgot to do something, try again. With a little practice, you can learn to use good communication skills every day. 有时候，当你倾听时，你会发现你犯了一个错误。处理这种情况的适当方式是说对不起。你说完对不起后，尽量让情况变得更好。如果你弄坏了什么东西，尽可能修好它。如果你忘记了做某事，就再试一次。只要稍加练习，你就能学会在日常生活中运用良好的沟通技巧。

Of course, pressure isn't always beneficial. To0 much pressure can harm your health. It affects your heart and your blood circulation (血液循环).People who suffer from to0 much pressure have trouble sleeping and eating. When this happens, it's time to get help from a doctor. If you are feeling this way, make sure you tell someone. The worst Way to deal with pressure is to keep silent; it will only make things Worse. 当然，压力并不总是有益的。过多的压力会损害你的健康。它会影响你的心脏和血液循环。承受过多压力的人会出现睡眠和进食问题。当这种情况发生时，是时候向医生寻求帮助了。如果你有这种感觉，一定要告诉别人。处理压力的最糟糕的方式是保持沉默；这只会让事情变得更糟。

Your attitude has a lot to do with how you deal with pressure. When faced with a problem, try to look at it as a challenge rather than trouble. 你的态度与你如何应对压力有很大关系。当你面对问题时，试着把它看作是一种挑战，而不是麻烦。

Life is filed with problems and pressure-they are never going away, so we have to face them and beat them. In the end they make us better people and we can win success. 生活充满了问题和压力--它们永远不会消失，所以我们必须面对并战胜它们。最终，这些问题和压力会使我们成为更好的人，我们可以获得成功。